Comments on: Ten day daddy http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/ Writer. Cyclist. Marine. Mon, 30 Jan 2012 14:44:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jayme http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-357 Jayme Tue, 19 May 2009 03:02:15 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-357 We'll see how it all pans out. If the paparazzi can sling pictures of Britney Spears all over the web every other day, I damn sure can post pictures I took of a baby I thought was mine when I took them! I'm 33, single, no kids. Believe me when I say we're a dieing breed. It's not about having no heart. We’ll see how it all pans out. If the paparazzi can sling pictures of Britney Spears all over the web every other day, I damn sure can post pictures I took of a baby I thought was mine when I took them!

I’m 33, single, no kids. Believe me when I say we’re a dieing breed. It’s not about having no heart.

]]> By: JB Stevens http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-358 JB Stevens Tue, 19 May 2009 02:43:03 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-358 Jayme, I'm sorry to hear about the situation. I can tell you and insure you that you can never get over loving someone if you truly loved them to begin with. When I lost my daughter in a custody battle I dam near pulled the trigger on myself. It’s been 10 years and I still remember like if it were yesterday. The only difference is I still have contact with my daughter. During the custody battle my Layer tried to get me to have a paternity test because of the time frame when she was born. I know there is a slight chance that she may not be blood to me, but I assure you she is mine and I am her daddy and God knows she will say the same. Any man can be a father; all it takes is your sperm. It takes a real man to be a daddy. I think you will make a great one some day. Just don’t turn out like me; I’m considered a man without a heart living in a castle with no doors or windows. You're better than that and I’ve seen it in Iraq with you. Semper-Fi And Super Gumby JB retired Jayme, I’m sorry to hear about the situation. I can tell you and insure you that you can never get over loving someone if you truly loved them to begin with. When I lost my daughter in a custody battle I dam near pulled the trigger on myself. It’s been 10 years and I still remember like if it were yesterday. The only difference is I still have contact with my daughter. During the custody battle my Layer tried to get me to have a paternity test because of the time frame when she was born. I know there is a slight chance that she may not be blood to me, but I assure you she is mine and I am her daddy and God knows she will say the same. Any man can be a father; all it takes is your sperm. It takes a real man to be a daddy. I think you will make a great one some day. Just don’t turn out like me; I’m considered a man without a heart living in a castle with no doors or windows. You’re better than that and I’ve seen it in Iraq with you.

Semper-Fi
And Super Gumby
JB retired

]]> By: Jayme http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-356 Jayme Sun, 03 May 2009 14:43:38 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-356 I agree with the statement that using a child as a tool is one of the lowest forms of child abuse. It happened with the three youngest kids in my family when the folks got divorced. Mom did it for years, using as as leverage against Dad. After Elyse was born I saw the exact same thing happening, and I refused to be part of it despite my feelings for the baby. It's easier being cold hearted. But difficult at times. I agree with the statement that using a child as a tool is one of the lowest forms of child abuse. It happened with the three youngest kids in my family when the folks got divorced. Mom did it for years, using as as leverage against Dad. After Elyse was born I saw the exact same thing happening, and I refused to be part of it despite my feelings for the baby.

It’s easier being cold hearted. But difficult at times.

]]> By: Kevin http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-355 Kevin Sun, 03 May 2009 07:59:51 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-355 Elyse is stunning. Having watched my son being born and feeling the need to be there, my heart breaks for you. I could not imagine having to walk away from a child I thought could be mine. I think you did the only thing you could do for her, understanding the possibility of the mother using Elyse as a tool. And using a child as a tool is one of the lowest forms of child abuse. This just shows that you are a gentle man... ...with a slightly twisted mind. Elyse is stunning.

Having watched my son being born and feeling the need to be there, my heart breaks for you. I could not imagine having to walk away from a child I thought could be mine. I think you did the only thing you could do for her, understanding the possibility of the mother using Elyse as a tool. And using a child as a tool is one of the lowest forms of child abuse.

This just shows that you are a gentle man…

…with a slightly twisted mind.

]]> By: Jayme http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-354 Jayme Wed, 29 Apr 2009 00:50:49 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-354 I'm in no real hurry to have kids. I figure when I'm 45 I'll scrounge up some young twenty-something from the Midwest who just wants to have kids. Problem solved! I’m in no real hurry to have kids. I figure when I’m 45 I’ll scrounge up some young twenty-something from the Midwest who just wants to have kids. Problem solved!

]]> By: Angela Hruby http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-353 Angela Hruby Tue, 28 Apr 2009 05:45:58 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-353 Hey Jayme, I had no idea this happened in your world. I'm so sorry. That little girl will always be in your heart, but when you have your very own, it'll knock the wind out of you to feel how much space your love for them takes up. Like mom said, my dad was 40 when I was born and he's always been the very best dad ever. No lack of bond or love between the two of us. Take care of yourself. Ang Hey Jayme,

I had no idea this happened in your world. I’m so sorry. That little girl will always be in your heart, but when you have your very own, it’ll knock the wind out of you to feel how much space your love for them takes up. Like mom said, my dad was 40 when I was born and he’s always been the very best dad ever. No lack of bond or love between the two of us. Take care of yourself. Ang

]]> By: Erik Westman http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-352 Erik Westman Sun, 29 Mar 2009 15:53:04 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-352 I'm sorry to hear about what happened, you're a better man than I am considering what I would do in that situation. I'll keep you in my prayers.. Semper Fi ~E. Westman I’m sorry to hear about what happened, you’re a better man than I am considering what I would do in that situation. I’ll keep you in my prayers..
Semper Fi
~E. Westman

]]> By: Alicia http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-351 Alicia Sat, 28 Mar 2009 15:20:26 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-351 Oh Jayme, I'm so sorry all this happened. I just kept calling you to get your address in order to send a blanket I crochet'd for the little one... I guess the number I had wasn't correct, although the message said "You've reached the number you are calling. Please leave a message" and that is sooooo you. So I know what I am going to do with this blanket now. I am sending to you regardless so you can save it for YOUR firstborn. I am absolutely know, as I know that the sun comes up from the East, that you will have a child someday. And with this short yet sad show of fatherhood you just experienced, there is no doubt in my mind you will be an awesome father. Please call me if you want to talk. You know I'm only 1 hour away if you need me. Much love, my friend... Alicia Oh Jayme, I’m so sorry all this happened. I just kept calling you to get your address in order to send a blanket I crochet’d for the little one… I guess the number I had wasn’t correct, although the message said “You’ve reached the number you are calling. Please leave a message” and that is sooooo you.

So I know what I am going to do with this blanket now. I am sending to you regardless so you can save it for YOUR firstborn. I am absolutely know, as I know that the sun comes up from the East, that you will have a child someday. And with this short yet sad show of fatherhood you just experienced, there is no doubt in my mind you will be an awesome father.

Please call me if you want to talk. You know I’m only 1 hour away if you need me.

Much love, my friend…

Alicia

]]> By: IP http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-350 IP Fri, 20 Feb 2009 23:23:59 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-350 Beautiful honest telling of a wrenching situation. She's beautiful. I wish for you soon, something that helps this make sense, that makes this unfortunate turn of events necessary for some ridiculously wonderful thing to follow. Beautiful honest telling of a wrenching situation. She’s beautiful. I wish for you soon, something that helps this make sense, that makes this unfortunate turn of events necessary for some ridiculously wonderful thing to follow.

]]> By: Bonnie Rouse http://jaymekohler.com/blog/2009/02/10/ten-day-daddy/#comment-349 Bonnie Rouse Wed, 18 Feb 2009 08:02:35 +0000 http://www.jaymekohler.com/?p=538#comment-349 Jayme This is Jodi's mom writing, just had to include a note to add my thoughts to the unbelievably sad situation that you have been having to deal with. It reminds me of Forrest Gumps famous quote 'shit happens' This has been such a personal, emotional journey, I don't know that any of us, looking at it from a distance, can possibly understand the total devastation you have suffered as this situation has unfolded. While I don't know all the details, I can tell you from hearing Jodi talk that this 'loss' that you have experienced will/and has changed you. You were prepared to give yourself wholly to the care of this child; instead, you must come to realize it will not happen. There are no comforting words, as your friends have to aptly stated above, that can take away your pain. Just know that you have lots of friends who are 'here' for you, even though many miles separate us. You are in our thoughts and our prayers. Bonnie Rouse Jayme
This is Jodi’s mom writing, just had to include a note to add my thoughts to the unbelievably sad situation that you have been having to deal with. It reminds me of Forrest Gumps famous quote ‘shit happens’ This has been such a personal, emotional journey, I don’t know that any of us, looking at it from a distance, can possibly understand the total devastation you have suffered as this situation has unfolded. While I don’t know all the details, I can tell you from hearing Jodi talk that this ‘loss’ that you have experienced will/and has changed you. You were prepared to give yourself wholly to the care of this child; instead, you must come to realize it will not happen. There are no comforting words, as your friends have to aptly stated above, that can take away your pain. Just know that you have lots of friends who are ‘here’ for you, even though many miles separate us. You are in our thoughts and our prayers. Bonnie Rouse

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